Being a mom is the hardest job I have ever had in my entire
life. Not only do us moms put an enormous amount of pressure on ourselves to be
the “perfect” mom, we get a lot of societal pressure to be other people’s
version of what they think the “perfect” mom is. If we choose to have a career
after becoming a mom, we are neglecting our kids. If we choose to stay home
with our kids, we aren’t contributing to our household and we are weak or lazy
women. On behalf of all mom’s I would like to say, mind your own fucking
business! As long as we are not causing harm to anyone, leave us alone. We’ve
got this.
I recently saw a news segment that was saying that
moms that have paying jobs outside the home are slower to see memory loss later
in life. It said that married
mothers who didn't work saw their memory decline 61% faster over a 10-year
period than those with paid jobs and single mothers declined 83% faster if they
didn't participate in the workforce. This simultaneously scared me and made me
feel like a failure. Not only do I not work, I am possibly going to mentally
decline faster just because my children do better because I stay home and the
fact that childcare charges an arm, a leg, your first born and any other body
part you can spare.
On the other side of this judgmental coin,
you are a monster if you leave your kids in the care of someone else so you can
pursue a career. You are, apparently, selfish and a bad mom if you work. I
mean, yes, being a mom is one of the most awesome things ever and it is very
rewarding, but just because you have a child doesn’t mean you stop being a
human being. Sometimes, the mom has no other choice but to work. Whether or not
the mom is married/in a relationship or single, sometimes people have to
fucking work! I don’t know if you guys know this, but shit cost money and kids
aren’t cheap.
At the end of the day, as long as your
kids are loved and taken care of, it is no one’s damn business if you work or
not. If you have the ability to stay home with your kids, FANTASTIC! If you
choose to work or have to work, AMAZING! You do whatever the fuck you need to
do for you and your family. As with most things in life, as long you are not causing
harm, don’t let anyone make you feel like a shit mom for whatever choice you
make. Being a parent is difficult. Let’s not add to it by being judgmental assholes
to each for something like this. There are far worse things in the world.
Until next time, work or don’t work, but
always stay peculiar.
Perfectly said!
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