Hello, my name is Neisha and I cuss.
Yes, that’s right ladies and gentlemen. For the most part, I have an extensive vocabulary, but I also cuss extensively and I make no apologies. I know that some people might already look down on me as a person and a parent because I have tattoos and piercings, and frankly I couldn’t give less of a shit, but when it comes to cussing in front of my kids is where some people really get their panties in a bunch.
As I have said before, we have 4 kids ages 3-12, and we have always cussed in front of them. I wouldn’t change that if given a second chance and for several reasons.
- I’m a grown ass woman and I may use my words in any way I see fit, in front of whoever the hell I want. I am 30 years old. I pay bills, clean house, and cook dinner. I make sure people stay alive! So, if I have the vocabulary of a well educated sailor, then so fucking be it.
- I would rather my kids hear it from us first and not from their stupid friends. Now, I’m not necessarily talking about these kid’s intellect. I am only saying that they are the same age as my kids and know about the same amount of stuff as them and have experienced the same amount of life as them. Therefore, they do not know how to properly cuss and I WILL NOT have kids that don’t know how to properly cuss.
- My kids are smart enough not to cuss. Well, at least not in front of us. Even our 3 year old gets the fact that there are words that grown-ups use that kids aren’t suppose to. Of course all kids have a time when they are little when they repeat a cuss word and it’s adorable. If you don’t think so, then there is something wrong with you! Of course now when Logan hears me say “dammit” or “oh shit” he knows not to repeat it and just asks, “what mommy?” It’s all about teaching your kids that they don’t pay taxes and therefore can’t say all of the words that taxpayers can.
And finally...
- Sometimes, you just need to cuss. Saying “OH SHUCKS” when you stub your toe on the corner of a piece of furniture doesn’t cut it! It just doesn’t. Even if it is towards your kids, cussing is important. Now, of course everything you say to your kids doesn’t need to be riddled with cuss words, but throwing one their way every so often is totally okay. Sometimes, it shows them that you are serious as a heart attack. Expressing your frustration towards your kids, that have done something they know for damn sure they aren’t supposed to be doing, with big words they don’t understand, doesn’t make that much of an impact. Now, throwing out a “what the hell were you thinking” or a “dammit (insert kid’s name)” has a much bigger impact. You have now used a word that they know you use when you mean business.
Now, we are not saying a bunch of things that are ”adult content” (wink wink) in front of the kids, I’m just saying that the run of the mill cuss words aren’t that big of a deal. Of course, I am not an expert of any kind and my way of parenting and living life in general is NOT the norm and is probably frowned upon by the masses. I don’t care though. All I can do in this life is be true to myself and what I believe in and try not to screw things up too bad. That’s all any of us can do, really.
Until next time, let loose and cuss a little and as always, stay peculiar.
OMG, I can relate to this. Unfortunately in today's societies vision of cuss words, I do say one that is believed to be the most "vulgar". Quite simply I say "fuck" a lot. Really I am surprised more people don't, it's just such a versatile word. I would like to chalk this word use up to the 8yrs spent in the army and the understanding that if you didn't cuss before the military, you sure as hell will afterwards.
ReplyDeleteWell to the point, I say "fuck" so much that when Emma hears me, she more often than not tells me "mommy, it's ok". My most extensive use of this word is usually when I am berating the bunk ass drivers in the state of Virginia.
I must emphasize, not once has Emma repeated a cuss word, now obviously going on three, she just does realize the extent of a reaction she would get if she did. My philosophy though, is if I say it enough she will realize, like you, that it's not appropriate and to only be used in extenuating circumstances.
Love reading your stuff Neisha...
OMG, I can relate to this. Unfortunately in today's societies vision of cuss words, I do say one that is believed to be the most "vulgar". Quite simply I say "fuck" a lot. Really I am surprised more people don't, it's just such a versatile word. I would like to chalk this word use up to the 8yrs spent in the army and the understanding that if you didn't cuss before the military, you sure as hell will afterwards.
ReplyDeleteWell to the point, I say "fuck" so much that when Emma hears me, she more often than not tells me "mommy, it's ok". My most extensive use of this word is usually when I am berating the bunk ass drivers in the state of Virginia.
I must emphasize, not once has Emma repeated a cuss word, now obviously going on three, she just does realize the extent of a reaction she would get if she did. My philosophy though, is if I say it enough she will realize, like you, that it's not appropriate and to only be used in extenuating circumstances.
Love reading your stuff Neisha...
Rofl, many, many years ago we would not even allow the kids to say "Shut Up". Now, I find myself saying "fuck" a lot �� and even allowing Zach the occasional, shit, damn and ass and I find I don't really care as much. He's a good kid, polite to others, conscientious and, guess what? Their just words and there much more important things to worry about than an occasional shit and damn!
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